I know it hurts and I know you are afraid. I know exactly what this kind of thing does to your self esteem. But none of this was really about you. It was all about that perverted abuser. Please. I beg you. Don’t believe those harsh words that they uttered to you while you were at the most vulnerable place in your life. After all of the pain that they caused you they will continue to justify their actions at your own personal expense, even while they are walking out the door.
But hunny, enough is enough. You have done nothing wrong.