You have achieved a title of CANDLE.
You are a person of great potential! There is a power inside of you that is waiting to come alive! It may not yet have been fully expressed in the world but do not despair because your best days are yet to come!
One thing that would likely serve you very well is to spend time clarifying all that you want in life. Often time people in this category have said things to us like “I’ve struggled at times with self-discipline” or “Some days I’m just not all that motivated.” If you’ve caught yourself saying things like that to yourself then one thing to know for sure is that there is nothing at all “wrong with you.” You were created for greatness and there is a great plan ahead of you.
A great next step for you would be to spend some good time thinking about what it is you really want in your life. We find that most people who think they struggle from a lack of self-discipline aren’t really struggling with that as much as they are struggling with a lack of vision. When we figure out the why we will find the how.
Here is an exercise I created called “The 20 What’s To Find Your Why”.
Another thing for you to be aware of is your surroundings. Without getting to know you personally there is no way to tell for sure, but there is a chance that there are some negative influences close by. If so, it will of course be up to you to determine what action to take but it’s important for you to know that you truly do become who you hang out with. There may be opportunity for you to get plugged in with things like Toastmasters, the local Chamber of Commerce, BNI networking meetings, a great Church, or other groups of people who have positive things to share and teach you.
There was a time in my 20s where I really was struggling. I was about 45 pounds heavier than I am today. I had about $65,000 in personal debt and I felt like I was floundering in my direction in life. One thing that changed it all was making a “decision” about who I was going to become. I sat down one afternoon and wrote out all of the things I wanted to become and what I was going to do. I decided that I was going to make some positive changes in my life and then I started working towards them.
I found that my inner thoughts started to chime in with things like “you’re not good enough to do that”, “what makes you think you could ever do that?”, “you’ve always been like this”, “only other people can do those types of things”, and “you’re not being realistic”. Overcoming those negative thoughts with positive self-talk became a first key focus in my life. I read a book called “What to Say When You Talk To Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter and it taught me how to reverse all those lies.
Then as I got past that and got focused on the big dreams and goals I had just laid out for myself I found that I struggled with procrastination. My fear of failing kept me from starting because the things on my page meant so much to me that I didn’t want to start them until I knew I wouldn’t fail. But that’s not how it works and that’s not what is important.
What matters way more is to focus on The Pendulum Principle of Action from chapter 7 of Take the Stairs, which says “Be relentless about making progress, and at the same time completely free yourself from the demand for perfection.”
Reading other books like Take the Stairs might really bring encouragement to your life. All of the secrets to health, wealth, happiness and success are available in books that cost next to nothing. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews is a great one if you are looking for encouragement. And if you are wanting to get out of debt and learn about money then you absolutely must read Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover. Those books and several othershave made a huge difference in my life.
For you, I believe there is massive greatness available for you to achieve with your life. Know that who you were in the past has nothing to do with who you have to be today. The only thing stopping you from accomplishing your wildest dreams is a decision to do it and then putting in the work to back it up. There is a plan and a hope and future that is waiting for you. Now is the time. You are the person. And the best is yet to come. Time to go to work.
Thank you so, so, so very much for taking the time to fill out The Focused 40 online assessment!! Hopefully you find the information here encouraging. Most of all I hope that we stay connected because as I mentioned in Take the Stairs “success is never owned, it is rented; and the rent is due everyday.” To assist you in that mission I have begun writing a “Daily Discipline Blog Post” just about everyday. It is 2 short paragraphs of insight and inspiration for movers and shakers in the world of business. It includes links to my free weekly podcast as well as to all of my social media profiles. Hope we can stay connected! Find all of that here: www.roryvaden.com/blog
How we score the survey
|103 to 125||80%||B||Campfire|
|85 to 102||70%||C||Flame|
Disclaimer: These are “generalizations” and do not fit everyone to a “T”. They are based on tens of thousands of interviews, surveys and a collective set of personal experiences. They do not determine a person’s ultimate success in life. They are only meant to bring hope and inspiration and clarity to where someone is at for the time being. Most of the ultra-performers of the world have gone through all of these stages at times and bounced back and forth between them at different “seasons” of their life as described in The Harvest Principle of Schedule in Take the Stairs.
Since light focused enough starts a fire then your score on the test represents your ability to start “fires”. In other words the description of your flame represents the intensity (speed and power) of which a person can change their life and the lives of those around them for the better. It represents their own power to spread and influence others in the world.
A highly disciplined person is on fire with passion and energy and naturally extends their reach to cause change in all the world around them. They do things quickly and their actions (not their words) are very loud. There is no containing this person from getting whatever they want and it is difficult to stop them and their team from making a huge mark in the world. They can solve life’s biggest challenges. They can touch the lives of lots of people. They are a Wildfire.
A disciplined person is healthy and happy. They provide heat to those around them and can be big when they want to be although they may have never fully maximized their potential. Typically these folks have the self-awareness to know that they could be bigger then they sometimes are right now. They are often growing and hopefully advancing as they create heightened self-awareness. They could quickly become a Wildfire if they catch a hold of the 1 or 2 right things in their life that will be the pivot point idea allowing them to spread. Oftentimes the only missing element of reaching their true maximum potential is the realization that other people around them are no smarter or more capable than they are. Once they have the realization that they really are capable of achieving anything they put their mind and their discipline too they will spread quickly. Right now they are a Campfire.
A fairly disciplined person has the power inside of them to cause big changes and big results but their own self-criticism, skepticism, or passive nature often keeps them from ever growing to the level they could. They have had signs of brilliance in their life and undoubtedly have massive potential. With a little self-education, maybe a coach, and some more positive influence around them they will become more intense. But for now they are a Flame.
An inconsistently disciplined person may be someone who has had a tough run at things. All of us tend to have “broken hearts” at some point in our lives and it just so happens that right now may be one of those times for this person. A big life change, a traumatic experience ,or the loss of a loved one can sometimes be the underlying root. Chances are that this person is struggling from a lack of vision. They can be supported by developing a clear picture of some inspiring future to work towards. It’s not that they don’t “have” discipline; they do. But their discipline is likely dormant. They don’t’ have to spend more time building discipline though; they have to work harder at clarifying a vision so their discipline will activate and engage and come alive. This person could probably benefit and be developed by being around other people with more energy, focus and self-discipline. They are often influenceable and would probably catch on quickly from being around others to show them the right path but may have never even been exposed to an environment that would help them thrive. There is much hope but for the time being, they are a Candle.